In 2018 Esma was traveling with her husband in South America. In Clombia they met Feli and Esma decided to spend twenty days with him in the mountains above the village of San Gil. During these days she experienced love, sexuality, eroticism. These were the days when she told me about Relationship Anarchy, the same days when she put it into practice for the first time.

"Relationship anarchy questions the idea that love is a limited resource that can only be real if restricted to a couple. You  have capacity to love more than one person, and one relationship and the love felt for that person does not diminish love felt for another. Don’t rank and compare people and relationships - cherish the individual and your connection to them. One person in your life does not need to be named primary for the relationship to be real. Each relationship is independent, and a relationship between autonomous individuals" (Extract from "The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy").